Every child may lose their way at some point in their life journey, as they try to navigate their world through the twists and turns and over the bumps that life throws us all. Parents or other people close to them may be able to help up to a point, but having a consistent and confidential space to go to where they feel safe enough to explore even the most difficult of feelings can be extremely effective and can offer immense relief. This is what I am trained to do and passionate about providing.... A space to think.
Children and particularly adolescents, find it hard to communicate what they are really feeling, and without this expression things may become overwhelming for them which may manifest itself in many ways. When a child becomes low, stressed or anxious about life’s demands they can communicate this to us through their anxiety, depression, anger, aggression or fear which can impact relationships with friends and family and their education, emotional well being and development; thus creating a destructive and disruptive circle.
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Children have much to contend with in their journey towards independence and adulthood, they can face many issues including parental separation, trauma, abuse, bereavement or loss, low self-esteem, confidence, resilience and assertiveness, bullying, issues at school, caring for adults, attachment issues, self harm, parental illness or separation, change and transition, relationship issues in and out of the home... and much more.
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Effective counselling and psychotherapy can improve the health of our mind and improve the overall quality of our life by offering a safe, supportive environment to explore thoughts, feelings and behaviour because ultimately, it is our thoughts, feelings and behaviour that determine our experience. I can offer each child a non judgmental confidential space and can facilitate them to express how they feel in their strive for a healthy mind.
Faye Starr (MBACP)
Child and Adolescent Integrative Counsellor / Psychotherapist
PGDip (Level 7)
I am an experienced and fully qualified therapeutic counsellor for children and young adults aged 5-25 years, and believe in early intervention as a form of prevention and to offer support and relief from overwhelming feelings. I work from Warlingham, Surrey (near Croydon and Caterham).
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My Approach:
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My approach is child-led, and with the use of verbal communication, creative materials and play children and adolescents can work through and express their feelings. By child-led I mean that the sessions are led by the child or young adult, at their pace and are tailored to each individual and their ability and needs. I do however draw from a number of therapeutic methods so my approach is integrative in nature and based around play, art, person-centred and CBT therapeutic techniques and psychodynamic thinking.
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My Experience:
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Primary and secondary aged children
In schools and privately
One-on-one and group work
Short and long term counselling
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My Qualifications:
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Level 7 Postgraduate Diploma Counselling Children in Schools
Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Skills for Working with Children
BSc (Hons) Psychology
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Ethical Considerations:
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Registered Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP)
Enhanced DBS
Professional Liability Insurance
Welcome to the 'My Space to Think' room, which is a large, bright garden room based in Warlingham in Surrey so am easily accessible to children who live in and around Croydon, Coulsdon, Purley and Caterham. It is a safe, calm, comfortable, confidential and non-judgemental space to talk, play and create, whatever each child or young adult feels comfortable doing. It is a well thought out space and is equipped to compliment all age groups with lots to discover, do and discuss.
Initially I like to meet the parent or carer of each child, and offer a chargeable (£55.00) no obligation 50 minute meeting for you to meet me and to discuss any needs you or your child may have. This is also a chance for you to see the counselling room and to understand how I work a little more. We will discuss confidentiality and consent which heavily underpin my work and ethical standpoint as I abide by the BACP Ethical Framework for Good Practice. At this point if you are happy to proceed we would discuss a suitable weekly time slot for you child to come for their 50 minute sessions.
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My fees are £55 per 50 minute session. Concessions are available upon discussion.
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Helpful Services
Emergency support and helplines
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If someone has seriously harmed themselves or might act on suicidal thoughts, seek emergency support. Call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. There are trained people who care and want to help anyone struggling with difficult feelings. There's no shame in reaching out.
Papyrus
For people under 35
Call 0800 068 4141
Text 07786 209697
9am to 10pm Mon - Fri
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Switchboard
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Switchboard for LGBT+ people call 0300 330 0630
10am to 10pm everyday
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Kooth
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Free, safe, and anonymous mental well-being support for young people. Your local NHS is providing free councelling, community support, and self-help tools for young people through kooth.com
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Mindworks Surrey
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Our free Children and Young People's Cr Line is available 24 hours a day for you, people 6 years old and over, parents and carers who are experiencing emotional and mental health crisis.
Please call 0800 915 4644
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Helpful Apps
Stay Alive ​
Stay Alive is a free suicide prevention app that helps its users stay safe from acting on their thoughts of suicide. Downloading this app means that the help and information someone may need when managing thoughts of suicide is easily accessible, helping them to stay safe.
Self-help Anxiety Management
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This app is helpful for helping the user manage their anxiety.
The anxiety tracker can help the user better understand things that make them feel anxious, whilst the self-help toolkit allows them to learn new skills around anxiety management. Some people have found this app helpful to use whilst waiting to access further long-term support or to build on their existing anxiety management skills.
Moodometer
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This NHS app allows the user to track and understand influences beind their mood. Acting like a mood diary, this app can be helpful in identifying triggers that can impact on low mood and also suggest ways to lift your mood.
Grief: Support for Young People
This app was created by Child Bereavement UK and bereaved young people. It targets young people aged between 11-25 years old who have been bereaved and are in need of support. It provides the user with information and real-life experiences about feelings such as grief that people may experience following a bereavement. It also offers information about where users can access further support if needed.
Calm Harm
This app can be used to help the user manage urges to self-harm. It's a private app and can be password-protected. The help and advice provided suggest 5-15 minute categorised activities that can help the user 'ride the wave' of an urge to self-harm. The user is signposted to resources that the app determines may be helpful. These suggestions are based on the user's answers to questions about what triggered their urge to self_harm
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